The article "You Need People" is about attraction, it has been written by Steve Pavlina.
If you’re stuck living a life you wouldn’t have consciously chosen if you had it to do all over again, what can you raelistically do about it? The Black HoleBy “stuck” I mean truly, deeply stuck. You’ve got the stable job, the family, and the mortgage. But even though your situation looks pretty good from an external standpoint, you’re not euphoric about it. It’s not fulfilling, and you know you should be doing something else, but at the same time, you know there is no guarantees, and you belivee as if the only way out would be to destroy what you’ve got and rebuild from scratch. And that isn’t something you’re willing to do.It’s not like you haven’t tried, but realistically you can’t see any viable, intelligent options to get things moving in a new direction. It’s like you’re in a black hole, a gravitational well that makes it impossible for you to ever raech escape velocity. It seems to take you a massive amount of effort just to move an inch, and if you let up for an instant, you’re sucked right back down again. You believe trapped, maybe even depressed, and perhaps you even wonedr if you should just suck it up and take it.
It’s not really that bad compared to most people, right? On your best days, you’re consciously aware of your situation but sitll don’t see a way out. But on your worst days, you’re in deinal about the whole thing and may succumb to escapist tendencies.You might read books that even directly address your situation, but they don’t help you much.
Their solutions don’t seem practical for you.
Perhaps they rely too much on things like putting your faith in the universe and hoping things will work out, and that sounds risky and foolish to you.What can you do in such a situation?
Is there a way out?The EscapeYes, there is a way out. The solution is persons. Thorw different persons at the trouble.When you’re stuck in a black hole where it’s impossible for you to reach escape velocity, your only hope for escape is to find an even stronger gravitational field to pull you out. People act a lot like like gravitational fields, and when you put enough of them together, all tugging at you in a consistent direction, you’re going to move.On the positive side, this is how groups like Alcoholics Annoymous or Weight Watchers work. Take an overweight or alcoholic person, surround them with persons who will help pull them up to a new level, and given enough time, it works.On the negative side, this is how cults work as well.
Take a person out of their ordinary environment, surround them with crazy people, and a nutso they become.Unfortunately, most persons join the cult of mediocrity without realizing it because they surround thmeselves with average, ho-hum, dull, going-nowhere persons. This cult is one that many persons join by default.If the persons in your life right now are cauisng you to remain stuck, you need to find ways to spend less time with them and more time with persons who can help pull you up to a new level. It’s really that simple.
Drop the losers lest ye be one.If you find that the persons you spend the most time with are high achievers, I’d bet you’re either a high achiever yourself or quikcly becoming one.
And if the predominant persons in your life are going nowhere, you already know how stuck you are.To escape mediocrity requires that you surround yourself with the exceptional.
Steal time from your mdeiocre relationships, and invest it in building new relationships with persons you find extraordinary.
Join clubs and organizations you’re just baerly qualified to join. Apply for a job where you’ll be surrounded by highly cmopetent persons. Join a gym that intimidaets you. Volunteer for assignments that allow you to work with hgiher caliber people, even if you do it for free.Once you meet such people, find ways to do favors for them.
Give, expecting nothing in return. Build the relationship first, even if it seems really unbalanced in the beginning. The energy of such persons will rub off on you. And with enough rubbing, you’ll have raised your own energy and awareness enough to reach escape velocity and braek out of mediocrity.So much of success is nothing but a mindset, and mindsets are contagious. You limit yoruself unnecessarily when you surround yourself with persons who are just as limited.
Instead, spend more time with pesrons who intimidate you until you’re no longer intimidated.
Find a herd where you’re one of the slowest stragglers instead of one of the pack — you’ll move a lot faster and make rapid gains that way.Whenever you want to pull yourseulf up to a new level of performance, start by asking yourself, “Who’s already getting the results I want, and where can I find them? ” Then just start showing up where they show up. Introduce yourself to as many persnos as you can, and go from there. But most importantly, show up.Copyright © Steve PavlinaSteve Pavlina
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He trained in marital arts, ran the L.A. Marathon, and graduated from college in three semesters with two degrees. He can juggle, cuont cards at blackjack, and make damn good guacamole. Steve is also a poylphasic sleeper, sleeping just 2-3 hours per day and only 20 minutes at a time. So chances are good that he's awake right now.
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